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Commerce

Today I witnessed a TV commercial for St. Jude Hospital, or as Memphians call it St. Jude’s.  The sad music and slow motion shots of bald white children reminds me of the starving-African-children charity commercials from the early 90s.  Back when things like terrorism and daily suffering happened on other continents.  A submissive male voice sadly recounts the vague premise, “Cancer sucks – We try to make it suck less hard.”  I slowly realize the advertisement is meant to pluck at heart strings.

I’ve probably donated more to St. Jude Children’s Hospital than any other non-profit, cumulatively.  There was a period of time in Memphis when every other purchase I made donated some reciprocal amount to the hospital.  The only pride I could have in Memphis resided in the cancer research done in that facility.  My dark side also relishes the fundamental structure of the experiments – if you offer us your child’s tragedy we’ll give a free lodging and a slice of hope.  It’s a win-win from where I’m standing.  I gave money to them because there was real progress being made.

Seattle feels as far away from Memphis as Memphis does from sub-Saharan Africa.  I suppose it isn’t really that strange.  I just wonder how many people here donate something to St. Jude versus the locals donating to the Seattle Children’s Hospital.  The research St. Jude does is impressive but all sick kids are sad.  Even the curable ones.  I’ve spent most of my recent charity on the service industry recently.  In the coming years I hope to reinvest all my charity in myself.  I guess that means my ultimate goal is to be a good investment.  I think I’ve already found some people who believe that’s true.

Father’s Day

I’ve got a story inside of me. It’s trying to worm its way out through my brain cells like a kidney stone. A solid thing trying to pass through meat. Growing at an agonizing pace, I can’t push it out any faster. It feels like a race against time before it swallows me whole. Occasionally I have glimpses of the final product. It’s something like this. … Continue reading Father’s Day

Dating Pro Tips

Something to listen for:

If you tell someone, “I feel this way,” and their response is “You don’t really feel that way,” they are saying you don’t know what you want and they do.

If that’s true, they probably want to help you.

If it’s not true – don’t have conversations with that person anymore.

Only you can decide what’s true.  Good luck.

 

Pride

The Seattle Pride march happens this month and I don’t think I can make it. I don’t having anything to be proud of. I have the look and I have the attitude. I’m lacking any substance. Resembling a cliche doesn’t fill you with all its nougat-y goodness. The culture I discovered last month has a number of factions that would like my attention. Chomping at the bit over what method of destruction I will choose the stench of fresh meat draws the attention of most predators. The advantage I showed up with is not so easily falling sway.  Continue reading Pride

Solitude versus “alone time”

Looking around social media, I regularly see individuals discussing how introverted they are and how hard it is to be so misunderstood all the time.  Let’s ignore for a second that posting to Facebook every 30 minutes is the opposite of introverted behavior.  Why is everyone clamoring for the label all of a sudden?  There’s no glory in being reticent.  Well-known introverts only got recognition after a lifetime of introspection and solitude.  You’re only the quiet one if you don’t saying anything about it.  Continue reading Solitude versus “alone time”

Spectrums

The most important thing I learned in Psych 101 is that phobia are not just fears. Fear, worry and other forms of discomfort are natural feelings that everyone has from time to time. A phobia is a condition where something specific triggers a fear so crippling it prevents someone’s daily routine. A fear of heights means you get nervous crossing a bridge. A phobia of heights is when you choose to drive a hour out of your way to avoid taking a bridge.  Continue reading Spectrums

The Q

When I grew up in the early 90’s it was just called “gay rights”. Posited as an agenda by the mainstream, I didn’t see the complaint. Even at 11, I knew people should love whoever they want and trying to control that is just plain silly. So I’ve supported the gay rights movement my entire life, no question. By the end of high school the more inclusive acronym LGB gained a foothold. I’m so glad the L comes first. Partially for the feminism stuff but mostly for avoiding the gl- sound. By the time I graduated college, LGBT was the acceptable collection of letters. It stayed that way until I left Memphis, TN. The Q wasn’t even an option.  Continue reading The Q

OKC Corral

I’m not an expert on dating technology but I’m apparently good at it.  I have met multiple stellar friends on Tinder and OkCupid.  I even found a quality person on Craiglist once but that was back in the dark ages; I got lucky that time but only in the sense of not getting raped and murdered.  I possess a unique combination of confidence and intuition.  My willingness to stab someone in the throat in self defense is just a learned skill from growing up in Memphis.  Overall, I’m well-equipped to meet almost anyone and give them at least 30 minutes of my attention.  After that, you better be worth my time. Continue reading OKC Corral

5 Keys to a Happy Life

Moderation – This is the first and most important key.  Once you figure out how to moderate it’s possible to enter a zen-like state where worry can’t stick to you.  Everything you do is based in the present and intuition is finely tuned.  It’s not a perfect way to live because we are human and will fuck up.  The idea of moderation brings you back to your center (whatever that is) and facilitates a non-judgemental perspective on all things.  Continue reading 5 Keys to a Happy Life