All posts by Ro

Voluntary Flagging

Daily Life, mur, Reasons for Things

Perhaps my favorite aspect of the kink community is the use of nonverbal signals to express what you’re into.  From the simple choice of left versus right (dominant v submissive) all the way to a color coding that covers far more than 50 shades.  Wristbands, handkerchiefs and jewelry all help send that special someone a clue about what you are looking for.  Old etiquette is sparsely followed in today’s age of online narcissism but the foundation of the system still has merit.   Continue reading Voluntary Flagging →

Dating Pro Tips

Book, Quick Thoughts, Rants, Reasons for Things

Something to listen for:

If you tell someone, “I feel this way,” and their response is “You don’t really feel that way,” they are saying you don’t know what you want and they do.

If that’s true, they probably want to help you.

If it’s not true – don’t have conversations with that person anymore.

Only you can decide what’s true.  Good luck.

 

Closure

Art, Daily Life, Future Plans, Large Events, mur, Reasons for Things, Stories

It feels like I lined up a row of cars. Something expensive. Like Jaguars or Beamers. I lined them up while wearing white spandex bedazzled with jewels, bragging about how I can use this magical motor-bike to leap over them. Why cars? Why not jump spikes or sharks or alligators? Why is there an image burned in my mind of things soaring over vehicles to varying success?  Obviously I watched the little boy cartoons in the morning. Continue reading Closure →

Solidly Integral

Daily Life, mur, Rants, Reasons for Things, Stories

A few months ago, I met a boy.  He was handsome, kind and completely infatuated with me.  A surplus of free time and unwise spending habits ensconced us in a romantic shell of speculative dreams.  My unfettered joy for life is intoxicating thing to be around and I’m very aware of it.  I often reminded him that his feelings are temporary and I have no plans to be anyone’s girlfriend.  Not dissuaded, he continued to spend time with me as often as possible and make overtures to our future happiness.   Continue reading Solidly Integral →

Saturday in Queen Anne

Daily Life, Future Plans, mur, Quick Thoughts, Rants

On a Saturday, I walk down to the Mecca the same way I do most every day. This is the day when at least one person comments on my hair or clothes or tattoos. Never fails.

The agreed assumption that I’m not out of place because “hey, it’s Seattle”. If that’s the case, why am I still the only one? In the future I’m plan to randomly comment on how great khaki pants are with all the sincerity I can muster.

Maya Koshka

Daily Life, mur, Random

I got mad at Maya today.  She’s been especially unsettled this past week.  She didn’t seem to mind when Bryn never returned last weekend.  I wonder if there might be a delay in her reaction.  Clingier than normal, she won’t give me a minute of peace while I’m at home.   After spending a whole afternoon trying to hold her and getting rebuked I finally snapped, “What do you want from me?”  Continue reading Maya Koshka →

Pride

Book, Daily Life, mur, Reasons for Things, Stories

The Seattle Pride march happens this month and I don’t think I can make it. I don’t having anything to be proud of. I have the look and I have the attitude. I’m lacking any substance. Resembling a cliche doesn’t fill you with all its nougat-y goodness. The culture I discovered last month has a number of factions that would like my attention. Chomping at the bit over what method of destruction I will choose the stench of fresh meat draws the attention of most predators. The advantage I showed up with is not so easily falling sway.  Continue reading Pride →

Unemployment

Quick Thoughts

“If I still don’t have a job in May,” I averred, “that’s when I’ll worry.”  Continue reading Unemployment →